A Tryer's Guide to Moving Forward

As noted in my first post, fear is one of the strongest emotions we, as human beings, experience. It's primal. It's hard-wired into us. I've been struggling with a lot of fear these past four years.

I'll be graduating in May- this itself is a cause for fear, however it's also a cause for something else. It's a cause for the realization that now more than ever is the best time to push past fear and take control of the things that in the past scared me.

Steps I've Personally Taken Towards Canceling out Fear:

1. Making those annoying phone calls to schedule doctors appointments. Up until this year my Mother has scheduled all of my appointments because I suffer from a mild case of Communication Apprehension when it comes to making phone calls to people I don't know personally.

2. Bettering my interpersonal communication skills. This affects many parts of my life, how I interact with my family, friends, roommates, employers, and coworkers. Improvement of these skills has proven to only turn up positive results.

3. Allowing myself to fall for the 'nice guy' for the first time... well, ever. Giving him a chance alone was scary as hell for me- god forbid a guy treats me right.

4. Allowing myself to be vulnerable to the fact that even the nice guys can turn out to have asshole tendencies or maybe even be secret assholes. Hell, the only way to find out is to be aware of the possibility and to just jump!

5. Better manage my money. Money is a big factor in my fears because it's always been a front-runner in the issues I have with my parents. It's still a work in progress, I'm not quite there, but bettering my money management skills will decrease my dependency on my parents thus cutting out the confrontation that causes me fear: asking them for money.

6. Getting a check-up, tested, blood work, physical, etc. I've been super sick for a couple of months and I had no idea what was going on and still don't have all of the answers. By being proactive about it unlike my past, I will soon have answers that can either put my mind at ease or at least let me finally resolve whatever it is causing my illness(es).


I still have a long way to go- there are many fears that I have suppressed and saved for a rainy day. Those will be addressed when they decide to bubble up enough.

In the mean time- I'm a work in progress.